You can’t feel your way into action, but you can act your way into feeling.
I hit snooze for the third time. Like superglue to paper was my body to my mattress.
Tossing and turning all night, my mind ping-ponging back and forth from thoughts. Nothing significant, nothing worrisome, merely pointless thoughts and tired eyes. Restlessness is a familiar place for me. Often the thoughts were anxious or fearful, often they created imaginary conversations or scenarios that brought fear— not that night. No, the anxiety and depressive thoughts don’t seem to haunt me like they used to, yet somehow here I was again, sleepless.
I literally woke myself up from two dreams because I was consciously excited at the realization I was dreaming—dreams meant sleep, actual sleep. Then the dreadful alarm jingle. Not again. I listened for footsteps and quiet whispers from my children. The house was still silent so I gave myself permission to snooze—not once—three times.
Sometimes we just don’t feel like moving. Whether we’ve experienced recent heartache, disappointments in relationships, confusion with our career direction, or we’re tired from the throws of daily parenting, sometimes we hit a mental roadblock. Sometimes it’s a deep thirst in our soul that needs to be quenched. Sometimes its an intense spiritual battle that requires intentional warfare. Sometimes, we’re tired. Whether its an emotional, spiritual, or physical roadblock, our bodies often become immovable as a result.
Stuck. Its in these moments I’ve been tempted to lay there, sit there, cry there — by all means, rest may be necessary at times—but we will never see progress and growth in our lives if we allow ourselves to stay put. We hear from the world choose you, do what’s best for you, love yourself, you do you. While the sentiment I don’t disagree with entirely—yes, we absolutely need to care for our health—there is a depth of our soul that will never be satisfied by seeking within ourselves. There is an ache inside us that will never be relieved if we put the power of healing in our own hands. There is an emptiness that will never be filled when we ask our empty selves to fill that void. If our feelings are telling us the story that we are trapped, stuck, immovable, worthless, and don’t have the capacity to move, then turning to me, myself, and I for the strength to climb to freedom is like reaching into an empty cookie jar trying to convince myself with one more hope and a prayer I can will a cookie into my hands.
When we’re stuck, it’s time to move. It’s time to literally force our bodies into action.
Before cameras had the technology to auto-focus for clarity, the operator would manually adjust the lens to see the target shot more clearly. Friend, it’s time to manually shift that perspective off self-help and get true help from the One called our Helper—”But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, will teach you (John 14:26 ESV).” We need His hands-on guidance to manually adjust our focus to see life His way in order to strengthen our inner selves to auto-focus into God’s perspective as the trials come our way.
“I life my eyes up to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the LORD…”
Psalm 121:1 ESV
“Behold, God is my helper .”
Psalm 54:4 ESV
Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…” It is time to reprogram our minds. If what you’ve been doing this whole time was working for you, you wouldn’t be stuck. Trust me, I’ve been there thinking you don’t really understand, but its time to stop that nonsense of sitting in your feelings and get up! Shift your focus: the position and focal point of your heart and eyes. When you can’t make sense of what is happening around you, I have learned the best place to position your heart is praise. Praise aligns our focus to what is important. Praise reminds us of who or what we worship. We all worship something or someone. We all put our faith in something or someone. Worship is where we choose to focus the attention of our heart. Praise is the expression, the action, the alignment, of that worship.
Friend, the struggle to get out of bed in the morning is real. The weight of the world resting on your shoulders before your first sip of afternoon cold brew is heavy. When your head hits the pillow at the end of the day and your thoughts are like a pinball plunging down a surface never quite settling on a target and you’re exhausted. I get it.
I’ve been there. On that recent dreaded morning listening to my alarm cycle like a broken record. I’ve learned that the only peace that comes in these moments is choosing Jesus over how I feel. I think about who He is and what He has done.
During that long, sleepless night, and the dreaded day that followed, rather than sulk in the pity of my struggles, I put into practice what God had developed over the several previous years—I put my trust in Him. My practice of praise sounded something like this:
God you are Strong. Jesus you are gracious. Holy Spirit you are my Helper. Thank you for having compassion in my weaknesses. Thank you that you have rescued me out of depression and the spiral of anxiety. I trust today you will give me the strength I need again, again, and again.
The result was not instant energy and clear thoughts. In fact, my mind remained foggy a lot of the day. Praise and dependence on God doesn’t always mean there’s a quick fix and everything suddenly works the way I desire. However, even though the circumstances may not shift, our focus does. We are filled with peace beyond our ability to comprehend. In my irritation or lack of patience because my body felt weak, I didn’t react in anger to my children, say sarcastic remarks in conversation or isolate myself. I didn’t have pins-and-needles anxiety all day debilitating my every thought. I exchanged pity for praise and received the gift of peace—supernatural peace.
Sometimes a simple meditation acknowledging God’s presence will give me breath in the moment. I inhale what I need: “Jesus you are my strength.” And exhale what I notice or feel in the moment: “I feel weak. Maybe you want to try this breathing exercise with me right now for practice.
Inhale: “God you are Good.”
Exhale: “Life is overwhelming.”
Inhale: “I need you Jesus.”
Exhale: “I can’t do this.”
Inhale: “I need you Jesus”
Exhale: “You are my help!”
The rest of Romans 12:2 says, “…so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.” Living God’s way, in His will, brings freedom, joy, and peace.
When the chaos of life attempts to derail us, implementing practices of praise and gratitude can help keep us on track. As we trust Jesus to be our foundation, He calls us to pick up the pieces and build our life on Him. The first piece is shifting our response from pity to praise.
When we experience constriction, bondage, and fear, and choose to cry out to God, He is right there to help. We are not alone. He is always with us. Can you remember a time when you knew you were not alone? Can you recall a time when you felt overwhelmed with peace and comfort? Maybe you weren’t aware that those moments of comfort were from God.
When I’m stuck in the grind or feeling invisible—like I’m doing everything for everyone else—I think back to these times and remember that I can thank God that He is here and He cares about me.
Maybe you’ve never experienced that peace or comfort. As we work together to create healthy habits, it can be helpful to reflect on what hasn’t worked before moving forward. Maybe it would be helpful to acknowledge what has been lost by not applying these habits in the past. Or maybe it’s time to examine where you are in this present moment, how you got here, and realize your need to adjust.
Accepting the need to shift your perspective will help you not only survive your present circumstances; it will help you overcome being trapped and thrive.
“He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God.”
Psalms 40:3 NASB1995
Are you ready to fill your mind, heart, and mouth with praise?
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